Dear Willy--                                                  
Maybe she's chilly from her contact with you.  Seriously, most cases of "frigidity" have little to do with biology, and much more to do with inexperience and incomplete communication between lovers, and this is something you both can work on. And that's work you can enjoy!
        There are two places on campus where you and she can get help with this.  The Health Education Office, on the 3rd floor of Gannett, offers a program called "How to be a better lover."  Groups start next week, so hurry to sign up.  Also, Roz Kenworthy in CGSS on the 3rd floor of Gannett is a wonderful counselor who has helped many women, men, and couples with this and other issues of sexuality.  Call her up (5-6884) or stop by and make an appointment; you'll both be better for it.

Uncle Ezra   

Dear Ready--                          
Alas, your Uncle Ezra does not have the answer to every question. But I do know where you can find out more about this--in G-26 Uris Hall. There you'll find expert consultation and guidance on how to connect to the mainframe for CUINFO, mail, text processing, statistics, and other wonders of the computer age.

Uncle Ezra   

Dear Hopeful--
Homecoming will be the weekend of November 8th.  There are a lot of activities planned for that weekend, and hotels, motels, and restraunts will fill up early, so you're smart to be thinking ahead.

Uncle Ezra   

Dear Broke--
Reagan's doing it to all of us, isn't he?  Your suggestion is worth considering, and I'll bring it to the attention of Bill Herbster & company.  Meanwhile, I'll contact Susan Murphy of Financial Aids, and see what they're working on to provide help to needy students. Watch this space for future news.

Uncle Ezra   

Dear Dreamer--
Unfortunately, as you already recognize, what you ask for is not possible.  If you're willing to compromise some (for example, you may not have to meet all 18000 other students) it is likely that you can achieve more realistic goals (including eating right, keeping in some touch with old friends, getting regular rest, reading your materials, preparing for classes, etc.).  Making the Law Review might be another matter; I'm not sure what's required for that. If you're feeling swamped and you need to ventilate, or if you want help in prioritizing and planning how you're going to achieve this dream, there are several resources.  Some law students form study groups, and the problem you've described faces all law students, so you might talk this over with your peers and see how you can help each other.  EARS is a peer counseling service for all students; you might stop in to 211 Willard Straight Hall or call 255-3277 between 3 & 11 p.m. Sunday through Thursday, or 7-11 Friday or Saturday.  And the Dean of Students Office is sponsoring three workshops, one of which might interest you: Stress Management (meeting for two weeks from 7:30 - 9:30 p.m. starting September 9th), a Grad Student group (meeting tonight, Monday, September 8th from 6-8 p.m.), and "General Personal Growth" (meeting Wednesdays from 5:15 to 7:15 p.m. starting September 10th).  For more information about these groups, call Greta at 255-3608.   My recommendation would be:  Don't just feel swamped.  Talk with some folks, plan and prioritize, and do something about it.

Uncle Ezra   

Dear New & Lost--
Variety is one of Cornell's strengths, and that applies to activities, too.  If you have an interest in politics, athletics, theater, dance, film, computers, public service, ... whatever, there's something here for you.  One of the best ways to meet "like-minded people" is to get involved in a campus activity.  The Cornell Daily Sun lists events regularly, and posters, flyers, and bulletin boards cry for your attention.  In fact, the hardest part is knowing what all is available. The Activities Center, on the 5th floor of Willard Straight Hall, maintains a complete listing of student organizations. You're sure to find something right for you.

                                                           --Sincerely, Uncle Ezra

Uncle Ezra   

Dear Better--
Don't be too hard on yourself; everyone procrastinates sometimes.  You have plenty of company.  And no one could do everything as soon as it would be desirable; there just aren't enough hours in the day.  But your resolve to stop procrastinating is commendable, and there are sources of help.
        If enough people express interest, Jerry Feist, in the Dean of Students Office (103 Barnes Hall), says he will offer a semester-long group on "Overcoming Procrastinating" on Thursday afternoons between 3:30 and 5:00 starting September 25.  This will be limited to the first 10 people who register.  Don't put off signing up, or the group may fill up before you show up.

                                                           --Sincerely, Uncle Ezra

Uncle Ezra   

Dear New--                                          
There are a number of places where you can buy winter clothes, depending on your budget and taste.  And it's not too soon to be thinking about this, as you've already noticed.  For a low-budget choice, you can get decent used clothes at the Salvation Army Store on Route 13 south of Ithaca, at the Service League Store in the basement of the Women's Community Building at 100 West Seneca Street, and in a few other shops.  For moderate to expensive choices, there are too many



options for me to list, and none that I could endorse without knowing what you want.  You get the fun of exploring.  Two areas that serve as centers for shopping are the Commons in downtown Ithaca and Pyramid Mall near the intersection of Route 13 north and Triphammer Road.  There is public transportation to all of these.
        Auto insurance is another matter.  First you'll need to do some research.  A good place to start is with "Consumers Reports" in Olin library.  They conducted a thorough review of Auto Insurance carriers within the past two years, and prepared a detailed report that is worth reviewing before you start shopping.  After you know what you want and can afford, and what questions to ask, I suggest you look through the Yellow Pages and "let your fingers do the walking."  Call independent agents and major companies to get price quotes, and select what seems best for you.

Uncle Ezra   

Dear Unhappy,
Well...as the introduction says, it's an experiment.  Reactions so far have been overwhelmingly positive.

Uncle Ezra   

Dear Confused,
To quote Myron Cohen: "Everybody's got to be someplace."  Seriously, though, if you're feeling lost, confused, or otherwise disoriented, try giving EARS a call.  Their counselors are terrific listeners. The number is 255-EARS.
        Or you might talk it over with a friend.  They may be wondering why, too.  The discussion could lead to important discoveries together, and changes in both your lives.

Uncle Ezra   

Dear Gutless,
I know someone who once got an A+ in a Freshman Philosophy course. Maybe you could too.  Actually, this is a recurring question at Cornell. You have a lot of friends and acquaintances out there who are wondering the same thing.  Fortunately, there is no one answer.  What's easy for you might be hard for someone else, and vice versa.
        Maybe the best thing would be to use other criteria for choosing courses.  If you're worried about the grade, here's some advice you already know:  take a course you're interested in, do the required reading, papers, problem sets, etc., ask questions, review before exams, and use the other study skills you've learned. If you want help, there are plenty of services on campus that offer assistance--tutoring, courses in study skills, academic counseling, and more. For a comprehensive list of academic services that can help you improve your grades, try "CUINFO SOS ADVICE ACADEMIC".

Uncle Ezra