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Dear Uncle Ezra,
I saw that the A.D. White Library in Uris was closed the other morning "for CNN filming."  WHat was CNN filming and when will it screen?

                                        - a faithful studier in A.D. White

Dear Faithful Studier,
According to the folks at Uris Reference, the CNN filming was an interview with Professor Theodore Lowi, John L. Senior Professor of American Institutions.  It will air October 20th, at 10pm.

Uncle Ezra   


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Confidential to "Nervous in Class":
I think you should trust that your professor will act in a responsible fashion.  If you have evidence that this is not happening, you can call or write to Dean of Faculty Peter Stein (PCS1@Cornell.edu; 255-4843) with the particulars, and he'll look into it.

Uncle Ezra   


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Dear Uncle Ezra,
I hate Computer Science!
        I hate Computer Science!
        I hate Computer Science!
        I hate Computer Science!
        I don't understand it! Why do we have to take this moronic course??  I have about 2 hours left to finish a program! I don't know what I'm doing!!!! I hate this course!!

                                                                Arrrrrrgh!

Dear Uncle Ezra,
Well, I'm sitting here in Carpenter pretending to write a program for CS 100. (Actually, I'm not even pretending anymore-I'm just sitting here reading Uncle Ezra's Wonderful Words of Wisdom). Oh, well, it looks like the CS 100 guy just got here, so now I can get some help.

                                                  Engineer not enjoying CS

Dear Uncle Ezra,
Where can I get tutoring for CS 100? Especially with this rotten prelim coming up.

                                                                  Engineer

Dear Fans of Computer Science (Not!),
Thanks for speaking up about how tough you're finding CS 100 (and possibly other Computer Science courses) this semester.  I'll pass that information along to staff in an academic support group that meets regularly to discuss how to better meet students' academic needs, so that there can be changes made in the course itself if needs be.
        In the meantime, the difference between surviving (though preferring to procrastinate) and feeling like you're going nuts lies in taking advantage of tutoring and other academic support services available.  The Carpenter lab consultants, grad T.A.s, and office hours with instructors for CS 100 are listed on the handout you received in class the first day.  If you misplaced the sheet in the onslaught of semester's-start information (which is easy to do!), you can pick up another in the Mac lab in Carpenter hall.  There's support for other computer science courses as well; ask the folks in the main administrative office (4130 Upson Hall; 255-7316) to help you find it.

Uncle Ezra   


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Dear Uncle Ezra,
just wanted to tell you I'm the one who wrote in in a blue funk about CS100. As of now it's looking slightly better. I took the first prelim and found to my surprise that I was doing rather well. I think I came out around a good solid B. Not great but not bad either. I'd still appreciate any information you can give me on tutoring available.

                                                    Somewhat Less Stressed

Dear Looking Up,
Good for you!  You'll find both companionship and support advice in the set of computer science questions above.

Uncle Ezra   


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Dear Uncle Ezra,
Why am I the only one in my class who is totally lost?

                                                                        TL

Dear Lost in Class,
What a scary, lonely feeling, believing you're the only one who can't keep up!  While I can't tell whether or not you're as alone as you feel without knowing you or the class, I can tell that you feel miserable right now and wish you could catch on like you see other people doing.  And I can assure you that Cornell can be one very tough place and that LOTS of other students feel like they're floundering this semester...  you only need to read the letters posted here to see the common thread.
        That doesn't mean, however, that you need to go on feeling lost. The Ezra Pointer to Acadmic Services on the main "Dear Uncle Ezra"
lists eight support services, some campus-wide and some specific to individual departments.  If you look at them and don't know where to begin, I suggest that you call the folks at the Learning Skills Center (255-6310), explain which class you're having trouble with, and ask where they'd recommend you go for help.  Or you can talk with your professor or T.A.  about how hard you're finding the class...I'm sure it won't be the first time they've heard about such difficulties!  Or you can write back to me with the course name and number, and I'll be more than happy to track down services that match your need.  You can also write just to vent, and I'll be here to listen.

Uncle Ezra   


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dear uncle ezra,
if you die do your parents receive a refund mine are paying alot of money

                                                 on the edge of the bridge

Dear On the Edge,
If you die, the last thing in the world your parent would be thinking about would be a refund of money.  Your life is irreplaceable.
        But when you get so down and discouraged that jumping off the bridge looks like a way out, there almost always IS something that needs to die, something that's standing in the way of your happiness. That "something" may have to do with the strain of keeping up with horrendous classes, or a big loss like breaking up with a lover or best friend, or a feeling of meaninglessness about your life's direction, or a number of other difficult situations that you can't yet see your way through.  No matter what the situation, though, you've got options other than jumping.  Please write in more detail about what you're going through so I can help you find them...or call the folks at Suicide Prevention and Crisis Service (272-1616, all day and all night), Psychological Services (ground floor Gannett; 255-5208 from 8:30am-4:30pm Monday through Friday and 255-5155 afterhours), or one of the other resources listed on the main "Dear Uncle Ezra" menu
under the Ezra Pointer to Personal Counseling Services.  You've already reached out to me (and I assure you that I'm a very real person who cares about what you're telling me, even if computers are our only medium for "talking"), so you know you don't have to through this pain alone.

Uncle Ezra   


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Dear Uncle Ezra,
If we send you our email addresses, do you ever do things like look up who we are? For instance, if someone wrote you who was seriously suicidal, would you do something like find out who this person was so that you could make sure he got help?

                                                                   Worried P.S. I am NOT suicidal...I just used that as an example. P.P.S. This is not a pressing concern...I was just wondering.

Dear Uncle Ezra,
If someone who was seriously suicidal or doing something against the law or something like that wrote you a letter and gave their email address, would you do something like call the police to make sure they were OK? I have heard of things happening like someone calls in to a supposedly confidential thing and a gives student ID number or something like that and a few days later they're arrested. You wouldn't do something like that would you Unk?

                                                                Suspicious

Dear Wondering and Suspicious,
I wonder what -- besides curiosity -- is behind your questions? If you're unsure about whether or not to share identifying information in a particular situation, I'd be happy to poke around the edges of the issues with you until you figure out how much to share or not to share.
        My policy -- which holds true for most personal support services on campus -- is NOT to release any personal information unless a) given explicit permission by a writer or b) in a life-or-death case in which I might be able to save someone's life.  Given the fact that I'm writing over the computer, it's unlikely that I'd have the immediacy and needed information to take this step.
        Please remember that anyone has the option of staying completely anonymous when writing to me, as each of you has done.  I don't hear your voice or see your face (although sometimes I wish I could!), so in general, there's no safer resource around.

Uncle Ezra   


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Dear Uncle Ezra,
If you are in Arts and Sciences, can you do a double major where one is an independent major and one a traditional major? And can you do something like group courses in the Ag school to form an Independent major? I am a Government major aiming for Law school, and I would like to know if it is possible to group Communications courses as an independent major.

                                                          Sincerely yours,

                                                            Hopeful Lawyer

Dear Hopeful Lawyer,
Yes, you can have a traditional plus an independent major. However, the answer to your second question is likely a "no", since your independent major in A&S can't be met with courses solely in A&LS.  Out of the 120 credits needed to graduate, you must complete at least 100 in Arts and Sciences.
        I suggest that you take as many courses in Communication as you can without worrying about meeting specific major requirements.  That way, you can pick and choose those which are most relevant to your interests.

Uncle Ezra   


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Dear Uncle Ezra,
Why is the food service closed down during Fall Break? Surely there are enough employees staying over to keep at least one open. I would walk to anywhere on Campus - I'd just like to use my meal plan.

                                                                 Penniless

Dear Uncle Ezra,
Why is Dining closed over Fall Break? I pay enough to come here. I can't afford to buy food over Fall and Thanksgiving. It looks as though I'm just going to not eat.

                                                    Already feeling Hungry

Dear Penniless and Already Hungry,
I forwarded your questions to Peggy Beach, Associate Director of Campus Life (mjb15@Cornell.edu), who replies:  "You are correct.  Meal plan does not include the recess periods of fall break, Thanksgiving, Winter Interesession, and spring break.  The majority of students leave campus during these breaks, and if we included break periods in the meal plan we would be charging students for meals they neither want nor would use.  I believe you will find this is true on most campuses.
        "So eat hearty at the last meal before break (lunch on Saturday, October 12, at Robert Purcell Dining)!  Meal plan begins again on Tuesday, October 15, with dinner at Jansen's, RPD, and Okenshield's."
        Thanks, Peggy!  Here's a list of dining units that are open during break; all will accept cash, CornellCard, and Big Red Bucks:
        IVY ROOM
             Mon. 10/14  7am-7:30pm
             Tues. 10/15  7am-10pm
        TRILLIUM
             Mon., Tues.  7am-3:30pm
        MARTHA'S
             Mon., Tues. 7-10:30am, 11am-2pm
        THEORY CENTER
             Mon., Tues.  7am-2pm
        BIOTECH
             Mon., Tues. 7:30am-2pm
        MALOTT
             Mon., Tues.  7am-2:30pm
        BIG RED BARN
             Mon., Tues.  8am-2pm
        ALFALFA ROOM
             Mon., Tues.  7:30am-3pm."

Uncle Ezra   


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Dear Uncle,
My ex boyfriend and I have decided to stay friends after we broke up.  Lately we've been getting into a lot of fights.  Yesterday we got into a huge fight and he pushed me to the ground -- hard.  I'm pretty sure he didn't mean to do it but what if we continue fighting and he does it again?  I care a lot about him.  We both understand that we don't want to get back together, and we both want to stay friends.  Is it worth it?

                                                           Getting Worried

Dear Fighting,
That must have been a scary moment!  Pushing someone forcefully in an argument is not normal or acceptable behavior.  Although a lot depends on how your ex responded afterwards -- did he apologize?  walk away?  blame you? -- you still have reason to be concerned.
        According to Nina Cummings in the Health Education Office at Gannett, research shows that when someone has been physically violent once, they're likely to resort to it again.  Even if they didn't mean it, it's likely that they don't have enough other resources to capture the force of their emotions.  Also, once someone resorts to violence, there's a good possibility that the violence will escalate.
        Nina recommends that since you've already broken up (so that there's not quite so much at stake as there would be if you were still a couple), that you take some time off and not see each other for awhile.  After you've each had a longer chance to sort out your feelings independent from each other, you'll be better able to decide whether to remain friends or make a complete break.  If you'd like to discuss your options in more depth, you can reach Nina at 255-4782 or NC18@Cornell.edu.
        Thanks, Nina!

Uncle Ezra   


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Dear

Uncle

Ezra,
Where is a place where I can meet people? signed, Not Enough Friends

Dear Not Enough Friends,
Some of these potential friends are already around you, awaiting the time and patience required to build a friendship.  By showing consistent interest and caring to the people you meet in your classes, the dining halls, your dorm or apartment, you can strike up some amazing friendships without even realizing their significance until weeks later.
        But if you need more contexts in which to meet people, your best bet is joining a club or other campus group focused on an activity you love.  Then you'll already have something in common (above and beyond Cornell itself) with everyone you meet there!  A tantalizing array of campus organizations are listed at this Web site: .  Browse until you find ones that appeal to you.
        If you want to talk to someone about your loneliness, the EARS peer counselors (211 WSH; 255-EARS) will be glad to listen, and, if needed, steer you towards further resources.  Their services are free and confidential.  Also, don't hesitate to ask your friends and family members in other places for extra support right now, until you feel more at home here.

Uncle Ezra   


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Dear Uncle Ezra,
What's the deal with hockey season tickets?  I'm a freshman and I got a thing in the mail this summer to buy them.  I sent in a check, and now what am I supposed to do.  I hear people talking about line numbers and stuff.  What are they talking about?

                                                          Rink Rat Wannabe

Dear Hockey Fan,
Call or stop by the Athletic Ticket Office in the Field House (255-7333).  The staff there will be able to tell you if your check was received and anything else you want to know about Cornell hockey but didn't know who to ask.

Uncle Ezra   


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Dear Uncle Ezra,
My friends and I have decided to get out of Ithaca this year for fall break and go to Canada for a few days (we'll probably visit Niagra Falls and Toronto).  Unfortunately, we'll probably get there on a Saturday morning and all the banks will be closed, preventing us from exchanging money at reasonable rates (I know hotels and merchants are happy to take US$ at a huge discount).  I was just wondering if you could point us towards any banks in the Ithaca area that sell Canadian currency at reasonable exchange rates.

                                                                   Thanks,

                                                              Road Tripper

Dear Road Tripper,
That sounds like a delightful way to spend break!  I imagine you standing by the Niagra Falls overlook, letting the pounding of the water wash away all the stress of the semester....
        The folks at the Information and Referral Center (info@Cornell.edu) did some research on your behalf and found that the following banks provide foreign currency at reasonable exchange rates:
           Tompkins County Trust Company   273-3210
           M & T Bank   277-2988 You may have to call each bank to request a specific amount of currency.  Happy road trip!

Uncle Ezra   


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Dear Uncle Ezra,
IN December '91 you said oral sex was dangerous during menstruation. Why?

                                                                     ?????

Dear Concerned,
I forwarded your letter to Sharon Dittman, HIV/AIDS Coordinator in Health Education at Gannett (sd15@Cornell.edu; 255-4782), who replies:
        "HIV can be transmitted if the blood (including menstrual blood), semen, vaginal secretions, or breast milk of an infected person comes into direct contact with the bloodstream or mucus membranes of an uninfected person.  In oral sex with a woman who is menstruating, a person runs the risk of contact between the mucous membrances of the mouth and the infected menstrual blood, as well as vaginal secretions, of the partner.
        "Although oral sex appears to be lower risk than vaginal and anal intercourse, it is not NO RISK, especially when blood is present.  To reduce your risk when having oral sex:
        "1.  Don't brush your teeth or floss before or after oral sex. Bleeding gums or gum problems make oral sex riskier.
        "2.  Use a dental dam (a square of latex material), a condom cut lengthwise, or plastic wrap as a barrier between the mouth and the vulva, vaginal area, and anus to reduce the risk of exposure to possibly infected blood and vaginal secretions.
        "3.  Use a latex condom for fellatio (mouth to penis contact) to reduce the risk of exposure to semen."
        Thanks, Sharon!  If you are asking because you have had unprotected oral sex with a woman who was menstruating, you should get tested for the HIV antibody.  You can call Sharon at 255-4782 or the folks at CGSS (Contraception, Gynecology, and Sexuality Services; Gannett Level Six; 255-3978) for information; feel free to do so anonymously if you wish.

Uncle Ezra   


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Dear Uncle Ezra,
What's the story with the stir fry guy at Okenshields.  I've heard a lot of stories about him, but I can't decide what is true.

                                                        Figured You'd Know

Dear Mystified,
Without knowing what stories you've heard, it's hard to separate fact from fiction!  Did you perhaps hear that the stir-fry cook hails from China and guards his delectable stir-fry recipe even from his co-workers?  Then you'll be interested in reading Q03 in the 2/27/96 "Dear Uncle Ezra" posting.  If you heard something else you'd like
clarified, you'll have to fill me in on the details!

Uncle Ezra   


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Dear Uncle Ezra,
My boyfriend graduated from Cornell last year and now attends NYU Law.  What is the CHEAPEST means of getting to NYC throughout the year? Penny-Pincher

Dear Eager to Visit,
You must miss each other terribly...good thing NYC isn't TOO far away!  Other than the ride board, which usually provides inexpensive and fun arrangements, Shortline's weekend bus service is the cheapest way.  You can reach the Shortline staff at 277-8800 for more information.

Uncle Ezra   


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Dear Uncle Ezra,
okay, so i know cornell milk comes from cornell cows, and cornell apple juice comes from cornell apples, but what about cornell beef in the dining halls? it might sound like a silly question, but i initially thought of it in a serious mood and only then realized that it could be a bad joke. although, i suppose there really wouldn't be anything wrong with it...
        also, how many of those glasses used in the dining halls are there campus-wide? thousands? tens of thousands? hundreds of thousands?

                                                         in a food mood...

Dear In a Food Mood,
I shared your questions with Peggy Beach at Campus Life (mjb15@Cornell.edu), who says that to the best of her knowledge, Cornell does not raise beef cows with the intent to sell.  Dining and Retail Services procures meat products for the dining halls from a local vendor.
        Peggy also found out that among the five co-op operations (Robert Purcell, Jansen's, Okenshields, Balch, and Risley), there are roughly 15,000 co-op glasses.  That gives you new appreciation for the folks who load them into the dishwashers, doesn't it?

Uncle Ezra   


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Dear Uncle Ezra,
I have to spend one month at New York this Fall and I am very intersted in some courses on TEASL (teaching english as second language) and if it is possible a short course on something related with human resource development in the enterprises.  Could you send me some information or how I can obtain information on it? Thank you in advance and I am sorry for my English.  (I am working for United Nations System)

                                                                  Regards,

                                                                   Roberto

Dear Roberto,
You're welcome!  I asked Jerry Wilcox, Director of Cornell's International Students and Scholars Office (ISSO; jdw3@Cornell.edu; 607/255-5243) about TEASL courses in New York City.  He replies:
        "I am not clear about  your question.  If you mean that you are interested in learning English and want to participate in an Intensive English program, I suggest you use the library collection across from the United Nations in the Institute of International Education (IIE) at 809 United Nations Plaza.  This organization publishes a guide to English language programs for people who want to learn English.  The name of the Guide is English Language and Orientation Programs in the United States, published by the Institute of International Education.
        "Or, if you mean that you are interested in learning how to teach English as a Second Language, very few short courses exist.  I don't know of any list.  You could check The College Handbook published by the College Board organization.  This series lists the location of colleges and universities and one of the volumes is organized by major fields of study, such as teaching English as a Second Language.  Check the New York public library or try the library at IIE."
        Thanks, Jerry!  As for a course on human resource development in the enterprises, I suggest you check with the staff at some of the colleges and universities in the New York area, like Columbia and NYU.  Have a wonderful, educational trip!

Uncle Ezra   


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Hi Ezra,
I have an engineering question for you:  Now that the speed limits have been raised across most of the US, there's a lot of hand-wringing about how our fuel consumption is going to rise.  Now, I can understand that accelerating to 75 mph takes a lot more gas than accelerating to 55, but what about maintaining a "cruising" speed?  I can't think of any logical reason why it would take significantly more gas per unit distance to maintain 75 mph than to maintain 55. (I also just returned from a 600 mile round trip thru NM, CO and WY driving mostly 75-80 and didn't see any obvious difference in my fuel consumption from previous trips where I was driving 65-70).
        Can you get me some hard numbers for the following scenario:  How much more gas does it take to accelerate to 75 mph and drive for 100 miles on an interstate (assuming light traffic conditions), compared to the same trip at 55 mph?

                                                             Thanks a lot,

                                                                     Becky

Dear Becky,
I forwarded your reply to Professor Al George (arg2@Cornell.edu), who is very involved in automotive research in Mechanical and Aerospace Engineering.  From his sabbatic at Harley-Davidson, he graciously replies:  "Acceleration and braking are important only for start and stop driving where speed limit doesn't matter...but the weight of the car does!  The power required at above about 50 mph is very roughly proportional to the velocity cubed, V**3; or, looking at it another way, force is proportional to V**2.  Then work is force times distance, so getting energy to move the same distance is proportional to V**2 times distance.  So (if we ignore the higher efficiency of an angine at higher power at 75 mph), energy consumed is (75/55)**2 higher or 1.85 times higher.  In practice it is less than that because of various factors such as engine efficiency, rolling resistance, etc. -- things you can learn in MAE 386, presently taught by Professor Lumley each spring term."
        Thanks, Professor George!

Uncle Ezra   


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Dear Uncle Ezra:
I have a problem with my hands and feet being perpetually sweaty. I have no clue why this is so, but it has been an ongoing occurrence ever since I was a kid.  Not only is it kind of embarrassing to have to shake people's hands when mine is drenched in my own sweat, but it also interferes with my ability to do certain sports (harder to get a good grip on a racket, etc.), to take tests (the paper gets drenched in my own sweat), to print out papers (I have an ink-jet printer, and if I'm not careful, just touching my papers can make the letters run) and otherwise causes quite an inconvenience.  I was wondering if you knew what this condition might be and if there was anything I could do about it besides constantly wiping my hands on my jeans.  Thanks!

                                                         -- Clammy and wet

Dear Clammy and Wet,
That sounds like quite a nuisance!  Have you looked into possible medical problems?  Since an endocrine imbalance can cause excessive sweat, you can start by getting your thyroid checked.  The medical staff at Gannett can do this for you; just call the Appointment Desk at 255-6958 to schedule a time.  If your thyroid isn't the culprit, then the Gannett medical staff can check out other possibilities with you.  If all goes well, you'll be rewarded by a restored sports grip, smear-free papers, and a dry handshake...which seems worth the time and effort!

Uncle Ezra   


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Dear Uncle Ezra,
I've heard he has a PhD in engineering, I've heard he owns a chain of restaurants and does this for free, I've heard a lot.

                                              Still Figure You'll Find Out

Dear Heard A Lot,
I checked out your stories with Eileen Hughes, Willard Straight Dining Chef (emh11@Cornell.edu; 255-5338), who says, "In reply to the inquisitive minds that want to know the whole truth about our illustrious stir-fry genius:  Hsi Wang is his name and he has his Masters Degree in Food Science from the University of Idaho, Moscow; and he is a PhD candidate at Cornell University in Bio-Chemistry.  He was a restaurant owner of two establishments:  one the Golden Dragon and the other, Peking.  His presence is worth far more than we could ever afford, but he loves Willard Straight and all of you that come through his lines.  We of course pay him, but the amount is between him and me.  He is the BEST."
        What a marvelous (and well-deserved!) affirmation.  Thanks, Eileen!

Uncle Ezra   

 
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